The Guru Guide: What to Watch Out for When Seeking Your Spiritual Master

By Jennie Lee
Published: August 4, 2017 | Last updated: July 29, 2020
Key Takeaways

Know the characteristics of a true guru and be able to find yours one day.

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After 22 years of studying with many wonderful teachers — profoundly grateful for the wisdom and knowledge imparted upon me — there came a time when I felt a longing for a master, one who could guide me from my ego-centered place of human wisdom to the place of true and total God-realization. By "master" I do not mean the teachers of the "master classes" that are ubiquitously marketed these days. What I mean is a teacher who has authentically overcome their personality self in such a way that they become pure channels of the divine Consciousness. Believe me, there are not many of these beings around!


It took years of dedicated prayer, but that master showed up one day for me and the difference is palpable. The experience and effect of his teachings, compared to those of prior teachers, is indescribable. The depth that exists in the words of a totally awakened guru provides a lifetime of work for the devotee to live into; and the sweet, deep trust that exists between disciple and master is unparalleled. However, because so many students get enamored of the charisma of many of their teachers, they often end up giving their power away to ones who are not fully enlightened. The criterion below will help you understand the difference between a masterful teacher and a true master, or guru.

Finding the Guru

Sometimes when we are trying to understand something we begin by understanding what it is not. In the case of the term, guru, which has been acutely misrepresented in recent times, we can begin by recognizing that an expert in their field is not a guru. A wise person is not a guru. Someone who is charismatic or has lots of followers is not a guru. All spiritual teachers are not gurus. And finally, those who self-appointedly call themselves as such are usually not gurus.


Guru means “dispeller of darkness” from the Sanskrit, gu, meaning "darkness," and ru, meaning "that which dispels." Paramahansa Yogananda, author of the spiritual classics "Autobiography of a Yogi" and "The Divine Romance," states, “a true God-illumined guru is one who, in his attainment of self-mastery, has realized his identity with the omnipresent Spirit. Such a one is uniquely qualified to lead the seeker on his or her inward journey toward divine realization.”

This is no ordinary teacher, nor is it even a brilliant or highly experienced one. A true guru is a clear, pure channel of Consciousness, untainted by ego or personal desires. They may be operating through a human body and mind to guide others back to the awareness of their true Self, but they are in complete transcendence of this world at all times. Only one who has attained this realization can show others the laws of spiritual harmony. And our attunement to them as living embodiments of scriptural Truth enables us to be guided from the darkness of our ignorance to the light of Self-realization as the following chant proclaims:

Om Asatoma Sat Gamaya; Lead me from the unreal to the real


Tamasoma Jyotir Gamaya; Lead me from the darkness to the light

Mrityor Ma Amritam Gamaya; Lead me from death to immortality

Separating the Charlatans

Inevitably, in every seeker’s journey, there comes a time when they tire of the little self’s story and yearn to know that which is greater. The difficulty then becomes discerning who is, and who is not, capable and qualified to remove our blind spots and eradicate our tenacious egos. Charlatans are many and the misuse of the word, guru, contributes to this mysterious domain. Many well-intentioned people fall prey to the passions of false gurus seeking money, power and/or sex. The misuse of spiritual powers by leaders has a long history, so seekers are cautioned to be careful, responsible and discerning. (Learn How to See the Ego for What it Is.)

Some people can be very knowledgeable in certain areas; proficient, for example, in intellectual wisdom, but still lacking in the embodiment of Truth and its integration in all aspects of their being. This being the case, they are still in their own spiritual darkness and cannot lead anyone else where they have not been themselves. The ego is still their dominant operating system. How can one remove a speck from another’s eye when he has a log in his own (Matthew 7:5)?

An essential part of making our way from darkness to light is, in fact, seeking out various teachers. Like in asana practice where we cannot realize the full expression of most postures on the first try, neither are we given the full understanding of ourselves by our first teachers. There is a process to Self-realization. The practice of learning deeper surrender into a posture and also into the humility needed for a guru-disciple relationship takes time. But our prostrations in forward bend on our mats prepare us for the final bow at the feet of the master. The yoga sutra is fulfilled and we become free:

Absolute devotion and surrender to the Divine enables soul freedom. – "True Yoga"

Does the Guru Lie Within?

Although it is commonly heard in yoga classes that "the guru is within," this may add further to the student’s confusion. Of course, it is true that the Divine Light lives within each of us. And that a true guru enters into us and accepts us. But if our awareness is still steeped in forgetfulness of our true nature, we are in darkness. And darkness cannot perceive light within itself. Left to our own devices, the ego will forever run the show. But if the switch is turned on by one already embodying the light, then we can perceive our true nature as it has always been.

The battle between dark and light, between the ego and the soul, is the fundamental action in this world of duality. It is a great blessing that true gurus have come in every age to lead us back to Truth and the realization of our innate light and love.

Characteristics of a True Guru

So, now that we've discussed what does not make a true guru, let's discuss what does:

  • They are humble, without ego or any selfishness because they know they are not the doer of actions, but rather an instrument of the Divine.
  • They are absolutely peaceful within. Anger never overtakes them, even if they use mock anger to correct or guide.
  • They do not seek mechanical obedience from a cult-like following, build self-serving organizations or ask for money, adoration or sexual favors.
  • They never use spiritual powers (siddhi) for personal recognition or proof of their exalted consciousness.
  • They have realized Truth and experienced the blessings of that state; therefore, their words are alive with Truth and their lives are examples that all may follow.
  • They want only the devotee’s highest good and will never force their will or expect someone to renounce his/her free will.
  • They exhibit pure, unconditional love, wanting nothing but the devotee’s spiritual development and well-being.
  • They work tirelessly and selflessly for the benefit of others.
  • One can see all universal virtues in them. (Learn about some of these in Manifest Success With These 5 Yoga Virtues.)
  • They can enter the unblinking, unmoving, unbreathing state of samadhi at will.
  • They understand the ways of the world very well, as well as the laws of destiny and karma.

Finally, a true guru does not have to be embodied to continue guiding devotees. A master such as Paramahansa Yogananda left extensive writings with his darshan (blessing), which continue his lineage and message. But many students prefer the personal connection they feel with a living teacher. One easily accessible, fully Self-realized master embodied today is Amma (Mata Amritanandamayi). She is known throughout the world as the "hugging saint," purely exemplifying love and compassion as well as serving humanitarian needs worldwide.

Follow the Light

Remember the checklist above when trying to determine if one who calls him/herself a guru is truly a master, and you will find your way from darkness to the light. (Continue reading about How to Find Your Guru.)

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Written by Jennie Lee | Author of Breathing Love and True Yoga. Certified Yoga Therapist with 20 years experience.

Jennie Lee
Jennie Lee is an author and Certified Yoga Therapist with 20 years experience teaching Classical Yoga & Meditation. Author of Breathing Love: Meditation in Action and True Yoga: Practicing with the Yoga Sutras for Happiness and Spiritual Fulfillment, she is a compassionate coach for students who want to apply the deeper teachings of yoga to their goals and challenges on and off the mat. Her writing has been featured in Huffington Post, Mind Body Green, Yoga Therapy Today and more. She coaches on the island of O'ahu, and by phone or Skype internationally.

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